How to Attract and Date Older Women (as a Younger Man)

How to Attract and Date Older WomenAlmost every young man has fantasized and wanted to learn how to attract and date older women.

There is just something about being able to attract and seduce older women that just seems like so much fun to most men.

There are many reasons for why a (younger) man would be interested in dating and attracting an older woman such as:

  • Older women are usually much better in bed than their more younger counterparts
  • Older women have experienced much more that life has to offer and are usually better at holding an interesting and captivating conversation than younger women are
  • Older women will not (usually) be dating or sleeping with you because of ONLY your money (when you are a younger man)

Older women are generally just fun and cool women to hang around (when you know what you’re doing).

But how do you actually go about attracting and dating an older woman if you are a younger man?

How to Attract and Date Older Women (as a Younger Man)

The key to being successful at attracting older women (as a younger man) is presenting yourself to her as something different that she isn’t used to experiencing.

Secretly, most older women are flattered when younger men find them attractive, because generally as women age, their looks begin to deterioate and decline and thus as a woman ages she generally attracts less and less attention from her male counterparts.

For most men, the exact opposite thing occurs. Generally as a man ages, his money, his social status, his experience and social proof all increase as he ages. In other words, as a man ages he becomes much more attractive. For a woman, as she ages she (usually) becomes less attractive.

There is a saying “Women age like milk while men age like fine wine”. Well, that saying is true. But how exactly does all of this relate to your abilities to attract and seduce older women?

The 3 Simple Steps to Attracting and Dating Older Women (as a Younger Man)

Here’s the 3 simple steps that will allow you to attract older women (as a younger man):

  • Present yourself as a highly passionate and sexy lover that can offer her lot’s of fun and excitement
  • Come across as a young man who is much more mature for his age
  • Learn how to persist and read her body language

I will explain each step below in much more detail…

How to Present Yourself as a Very Passionate and Sexy Lover

As a younger man, one thing that you can offer older women (that an older man usually can’t) is lot’s of fun and excitement. Women are simply unable to experience this same type of fun with men who are much more older than you.

In fact, this is one of the big advantages that you have as a younger man that older man don’t.

  • Older women will try to date YOU just for the sex, fun, and excitement.
  • Older women will try to date OLDER MEN just for their money, for security reasons, or when they are simply trying to settle down and start a family.

As a younger man, most older women will (correctly) assume that you don’t have a whole lot of money. But one thing that you CAN help older women out with is sex. Lot’s and lot’s of fun and highly passionate sex.

For these reasons, whenever you approach an older woman (as a younger man) and she is very receptive to you and is showing you heavy signs of interest, you are best off moving fast and escalating to sex very quickly.

Your job (as a younger man) is to make older women feel like they are young again. Your job is to make them feel wanted and highly sought after just like they were when they was younger.

How do you present yourself as a passionate and sexy lover (when you’re a younger man)?

When you approach older women, as soon as you begin talking to her, be sure to make use of lot’s and lot’s of touching. Look her directly in her eyes while touching her to create a very sexual vibe. Talk more slowly (more slower than when you’d talk to a younger woman).

Your job is to approach older women and present yourself as a (younger) man who is ONLY after sex. You’re not looking for a relationship, you’re not trying to make any female friends, you’re ONLY out to get sex from an attractive older woman.

But presenting yourself as a sexual man isn’t enough if you hope to attract older women (as a younger man), you must also…

Come Across As a Younger Man Who Is Much More Mature For His Age

In addition to you creating a very sexual vibe when talking to older women, you must ALSO at the same time present yourself as a younger man who is much more mature for his age.

The truth is that although older women would like to experience a lot more fun and excitement in their life, they do NOT want to have to babysit any young kids (or be reminded of it). This is why it is so important to come across as a much more mature man when you are younger.

Some keys to coming across as a much more mature younger man are:

When you dress well, you instantly stand out from 95% of the men. Most guys don’t pay ANY attention at all to their appearance and the way that they look. As a younger man who dresses very stylish, you communicate to older women that you have lot’s of potential and are going places in life.

Only successful (or soon to be successful) men pay attention to their image and body langauge. Learn how to dress well and you’ll come across and appear much more mature for your age.

Having powerful eye contact is another thing that you can do to separate yourself from other men and stand out. Most men have terrible confidence and are unable to look the attractive women that they meet in the eye. Likewise most men walk with terrible posture that is very unattractive. By you focusing on and improving these fundamentals, you again, come across as a man much more mature for your age.

And learning how to be powerful and be a man who offers value to women is something that you gain through experience. But one way that you can offer girls value is through good conversation. This means becoming a good listener and intriguing women and coming across as an interesting and very attractive man.

But if you want to really learn how to attract and date older women there is ONE more thing that you need to do…

Learn How to Persist (and Read Her Body Language)

Older women generally take much more time and effort to get into bed. In fact, it usually takes much more comfort building in order for you to get an older woman’s phone number. That’s because older women will sometimes say “No” when they really want to say “Yes”.

Why do older women send these mixed signals?

Because many older women don’t want to come across as too “easy to get”. Many older women don’t want to appear as naughty women who are out seeking pleasure and adventure. But as I have already talked about “All women are sluts who are waiting for you to bring out their naughty side”.

How do you persist in a way that is attractive and how do you even know if it’s worth persisting in the first place?

Read her body language. If her words is saying “No” but her body is saying “Yes” then it’s worth persisting.

Here’s how you can tell:

  • If you’re telling a girl that you’re attracted to her and interested in spending some alone time with her, and when she says “No” to your idea, she stands there and keeps on talking to you.
  • You’re having a conversating with a girl and you begin physically escalating with her and she tells you that she isn’t comfortable with you moving this fast, but… she doesn’t get up to leave or walk away.

The secret is to listen to women’s “actions” and NOT their “words”.

When a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, but she keeps on talking to you and doesn’t walk away, that is when you should persist and keep on trying.

THIS is the biggest difference between chasing a girl and persisting in a way that is attractive to women. When you learn and are able to listen to women’s actions and NOT their words, you will be able to close them much more effectively.

So many older women WILL try giving you some early resistance, but it’s up to YOU to correctly read her body language and determine if it’s worth persisting.

But there is still ONE more problem that you may run into when you’re trying to attract and date older women as a younger man…

How Old Are You?

There is one more problem you may find yourself running into in you’re attempts to attract older women and that is correctly answering the question “How Old Are You?”

Many young men have successfully approached older women, been able to banter and tease older women and make them laugh, and got those older women very interested in dating them, but then…

As she’s laughing, the older woman will casually ask the younger man “How Old Are You?” and the younger man will stutter and mutter out his age “21” and the older woman will respond “Oh, you’re too young for me”, and just like that, all of the attraction that this younger man has built with this older woman is gone. evaporated. deterioated.

Knowing how to correctly respond to the question “How Old Are You?” when asked by an older woman is very important if your goal is to attract and date older women. Here’s how to best respond to the “How Old Are You?” question that you are bound to run into as a younger man.

When an older woman asks you the question “How Old Are You?” respond back to her with “Take a Guess?” and then you let her GUESS your age.

No matter what age she guesses that you are, you respond back with “Close enough” and then you say that you are ONE year older than the age that she guessed that you was.

Why is this strategy so freakin effective?

Because women will usually guess the age that they actually WANT you to be. And truthfully, once you’ve already taken a woman to bed, she won’t care how old that you are (if you’re able to give her some incredible orgasms).

How to Attract and Date Older Women (as a Younger Man)

Successfully attracting older women really comes down to presenting yourself as a passionate and sexy young man who can offer older women lot’s of sex and excitement.

Presenting yourself as a younger man who is much more mature for his age.

Learning how to persist and listen to women’s “actions” and NOT their “words”

And of course, being able to correctly respond to the question “How Old Are You?” that many older women will end up asking you.

Follow these simple tips and you’ll be able to attract and date the older women that YOU find most attractive.

Dating older women is fun (and exciting) because they are usually great in bed, have a very high sex drive (more than younger women), and can really make you feel special and cared for.

After implementing these tips, you’ll be able to date and attract any older woman that you want.

– Malcolm Thomas

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  1. Your an asswhole. I resent your lack of respect in your statement, “all women are sluts who are waiting for you to take out their naughty side.” SLUTS? WE ARE NOT SLUTS, we donot [all] sell our freaken bodies for measly sex. If you want to give young men advice on older women, start by cultivating an healthy perception [in their minds] of the opposite sex – you damn jerk.

    1. That doesnt mean that u r actually a slut, instead it tries to develop in men the idea that women not against having some fun with a dude and DO want to HAVE SEX with the right person, and by the “right person” i dont mean the “only one”. So, considering this new information, u and all the follow females who will response, are dirty bitches :/

    2. HELLO! Good day young lady i presume, i really recommend your statement out there to the publisher on th aspect of “not to regard every woman aS a slut”
      sorry to mention this am a kind of a curiouse gentel guy who will like be your friend. please reply to my “mail”
      thanks in advance!!!

  2. It’s all about you make uthem laugh, have confident in your self and be kind to her. Don’t be jerk trust me? Talking to older woman and young woman is different I know because I talk to different type of woman also it will be good idea to be good at sex it really help with you relaship

  3. Good sex will help any relationship, younger or older but the listening to actions thing did help. That was my problem, listening to their words where I thought she didn’t like me. Fortunately, attraction doesn’t go away, love at first sight doesn’t die no matter what you do and how bad you screw up. I became a jerk when I thought she didn’t like me and the tables turned where she was the one that started to persist, chicks are weird.

  4. Older woman are a lot sluttier, my aunt who is older has sex with friends while intoxicated on cocaine wildly. It’s quite a turn on to hear actually. She prefers large cocks though to match her huge breasts

  5. Debbie, where are you located, I’m 42 but I always get that I’m in my low 30s. Perhaps we can stir up some unique excitement 😉

  6. LOL.  I am NOT interested in younger men.  However, they seem to be VERY interested in ME.  Most think I am about 10 years younger than I actually am.  Generally, I think they look about 10 years OLDER than they actually are.  So, my theory is that women in their 40s and 50s think that men their age look like grandpas–and generally they do.  Here and there you will find one that is in shape, can stay up past 10 and has all of his noggin hair.  Few and far between.  Women, on the other hand, take care of themselves, stay in shape, wear stylish clothes, like to have fun and go out, etc.  IMHO, women age better than men and also handle their aging much better.  Geez!

  7. This read gives out nice tips (and not the “all are SLUTS” parts). I agree with Thomas and his commented theory. Being nice, common sense acting that you are mature, and being yourself (making her laugh at some jokes and the way you act in personality – in a good way)… All about those key things. I’ve tried them before, and they do work.

  8. When someone said Men or WOMEN are these or that, you become obsessed with it, I think you definitely need someone to sensitised on the need not to personalise issues like this

  9. I’m 19, I’m attracted to a Woman who is of my Mothers age and she is my friends Mother. She is not of the beautiful type (idk) I’m just attracted to her “sexually”. Few days back we were having a conversation and she suddenly touched My Face very softly. This was a very awkward situation for me. My friend(her son) also saw that. We know each other from a very long time. Sometimes I get dirty dreams about her(this started from last 5-6 months) But when I get back to my senses, I feel guilty. I don’t want to think about her sexually After all she is my friends mother.

    And I will not like if someone is thinking about my Mother the SAME.

    I just wanted to say this. I feel very bad about it.

  10. This whole topic is sick! I was very recently used by a younger man like you. he used all the techniques you describe here plus some others!! I have never been so hurt and completely nroken down in my life as i am right now! I think men like you are scum and the lack of respect for another human being is unforgiveable. Would you want your mother, sister or daughter to daughter to experience the pain i feel?

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